I'm Michelle K. I coach women as they overcome the trauma of divorce.
I will teach you how to self-heal, how to master your mind, and design the life you've dreamed of.

It’s changed a little bit since last year, when I went through something I never thought I would survive. I spent Mother’s Day in San Francisco with my oldest child (the only one who doesn’t threaten to move home to Maui on a regular basis). I was on cloud nine. I love being a mother, it's kind of my thing.

We hugged goodbye, I hopped on my flight and headed back with a full heart. I stepped off that plane into my own worst nightmare. My husband of twenty-four years announced that he wanted a divorce. My whole world turned upside down. He told me that he had met someone else and wanted to live his life without me. I was completely blindsided. Shattered. I felt like I was going to die.

I wasn’t sure I would ever be the same. Turns out, I was right. I’m not the same. I’m better. Along with my last name, an enormous number of things have changed for better, and for good.

Actually, my new name is Michelle K.

After several months filled with tears, stress, doubt, and fear, I emerged with a determination and commitment to live my life in a way I had never experienced before.

According to Deepak Chopra...

All great changes are preceded by chaos.

So, yeah.  At first, it was a real crap fest. You know the kind.

Darkness covered me like a heavy blanket. My days were filled with tears, stress, doubt, and fear. I had to fight just to breathe some days, to put one foot in front of the other. I couldn’t eat or sleep. I obsessed over what I could have done to prevent my husband from leaving me. I battled the voices in my head that told me I wasn’t pretty enough, attentive enough, fun enough, kind enough. I was a hot mess, and I was grieving the death of a life I thought I wanted. Then one day a crack appeared. Light started to filter in. Finally, I began to tame those voices in my head. And I received a revelation of my own—I deserved so much better than this. And I was determined to have it.

I crawled out of that darkness with a commitment to living my life in a whole new way. I took a deep dive into self healing. I learned how to master my mind and my emotions. I learned how to dream again. I didn't want my old life back anymore. I wanted the life I knew I could build for myself. I found myself on the phone with other women who were experiencing their own version of the great dumpster fire that is divorce. There was plenty of commiserating, and a fair amount of ugly crying. But over and over I ended my calls with whispers of truth, to myself as much as to these women…You can do it.

You can do it. You won't be as happy as you used to be. You will be happier. I felt it deeply, to my core. I still do.

KIDS TO MY NAME

5

WEDDING DRESSES WORN*

0

MOVIES I'VE STAYED AWAKE FOR IN THE LAST YEAR

2.5

NUMBER OF 'PETS' CAUGHT BY my CHILDREN IN THE WILD

13

*but that's a story for another day

I might be sending one of my boys who did end up moving home out to fix a sprinkler or pump up the tires on my beach cruiser...that thing has more miles on it than my car! I might be taking pictures of them surfing, or I might be snuggled up in my new art studio reading a book. (I’m probably reading the book). My art studio used to be a man-cave with a filing cabinet and a lazy-boy. Yuck. Now it’s a peaceful haven for my soul, and the place I inhabit on the daily to write, plan, and dream. I redesigned this space with my healing in mind. It’s a soft place to land, and it’s world headquarters for Michelle K.

Right now, while you are reading this,
I am probably at home on a little island in the middle of the Pacific.

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If you’re there, at the bottom, under a blanket of stress and doubt - I see you. I’m here to tell you that it gets good. It gets really, really good. Better than I ever thought it could.

I have shed a boatload
of limiting beliefs and you can, too.  


I believe in things far greater than the power of doubt. It's time you learn to trust yourself.

I believe in the power of stories, the power of women, and the power of hope.



And I believe in you.

BETWEEN YOU AND ME

1. IF I HAD TWENTY DOLLARS TO MY NAME I WOULD BUY...

2. WHEN I GROW UP I WANT TO BE...

3. THE LAST TIME I LAUGHED UNTIL I *ALMOST* PEED MY PANTS  WAS... (OK I PEED A LITTLE, I'VE HAD 5 KIDS OK?!)

4. I ALWAYS SEEM TO COLLECT...

5. YOU WOULD NEVER GUESS THIS ABOUT ME, BUT...

6. MY FAVORITE 'F' WORD IS...

Ye old questionnaire...